Me and my partner were couples since a year ago. But our relationship went on and off until last Nov that we called it an end. That was before he went to Adelaide.
When he is in Adelaide, he asked whether there’s still possibilities between us. That was Feb. After one week of deep consideration, I said yes.
So, there goes the starting of a LDR.
When we were close to each other physically, things didn’t really work out between us. We used to have lots of disagreements but similarities at the same time. We had known each other for so long. Habits, interests, behaviours and etc. We KNOW we can be together and stay happily forever, but it just that there’s always issues here and there. And these issues triggered the break-ups. Our main problem was miscommunications.
The reason why I had agreed to give it a try this time, because I actually think that things might be better when we are apart. By thinking this may allow more spaces and time for each of us when we are apart, I was like “Hey! Who knows it might work this time?”. What Abe said was exactly what I was thinking when I agreed of getting myself into this LDR.
- …the most positive aspect of a long-distance relationship is the ability to devote time to growing as a person and enjoying independent activities while apart.
And I hope we will still counting in the near future. At least.
I understand how important TRUST is in making this happen. And INSECURITY always comes in the way. But I realise in the end, it is LOVE exists in the relationship matters the most.
I make myself to be more honest and straightforward in the sense of letting him know how I feel about everything between us. Actually, I do feel grateful that we have the opportunity to go through this phase, or rather test. We exchange emails almost everyday and believe me, the effect is way better than last time. I mean in the term of communication. Through emails, I find myself able to express my earnest feelings to him. And in this process, he learns to understand, accept and comfort me.
So yeah, although I heart SDR, I still never regret of saying ‘yes’ at the first place. Like what Jennifer Aniston has said,”There are no regrets, but lessons in life.” So, if this doesn’t work out in the end, I might as well just take it as a lesson then.
And thanks for this piece of advice: “Probably spending time apart is one of the most important and undervalued parts of a healthy relationship.”
Cheers. 
